I started to lose myself in 2015, losing my body, losing myself. I wasn’t in a right place mentally and most of the time I didn’t even realise it. I was constantly distracting myself. It was so much easier than to look myself in the eyes and ask myself how I was really doing. Instead of confronting yourself you kind of keep yourself busy, you know?
Last year I finally went into therapy. I caught myself feeling depersonalised and knew something was wrong with me. I didn’t really understand what was going on and thought I could probably fix myself. As I am (or was), a “fix your own problems kind of girl”. I booked a vacation to Bali in march and told myself that if this trip didn’t ‘cure’ me, I would go see a doctor and talk about my problem.
What I realise now, almost a year later, is that I was not aligned with what the universe had planned for me. By constantly distracting myself and keeping myself busy I wasn’t able to feel what I was supposed to feel. Not only was I blocking out the negative emotions that I had, I was blocking all the good ones too. I remember smiling, but I wasn’t really feeling happiness. I remember crying, and I didn’t even know why or what for. I could feel the tears running down my cheeks, but all I felt was.. numb.
Going to the doctor was the right thing to do. Not only did I feel so relieved, I also felt like a huge change was going to come. Slowly but surely everything made sense again, I felt guided by something or someone. Maybe it was my intuition, or maybe it was that first step for help that had awoken my ‘inner self’. Going to the doctor and asking for help was one of the hardest things I had to do, but once I got over myself, I knew it was the RIGHT thing to do. I immediately felt the connection with myself being restored.
I have learned so much during this time I call ‘rock bottom’. Hopefully one day I will be brave enough to share my story with you, I am writing my book but it’s far from being published. Anyway, I wanted to share some tips with you on how to have a better connection with yourself – because I genuinely think this is the most important relationship in your life, the one you have with yourself.
1. Let it go.
You know deep down, that there is something that needs to be done. Maybe it is a relationship that needs to end, maybe it is an apology that needs to be made, maybe there is something that you need to write. DO it and do it for YOU. As you are reading this, you know exactly what comes to your mind. It’s important, and once it’s done you will feel so relieved and fresh.
2. Surround yourself with the right souls.
We meet so many people throughout our lives. A lot of them only pass us by and some of them stick around for a while. And sometimes, when we are lucky we meet someone that is a soulmate (you can just feel it). When we have a good connection with ourselves we are more likely to meet people with the same vibration. If you believe in the law of attraction this might be something you are familiar with. When you meet someone like that, you just KNOW. Keep the people around that make you happy, healthy and just a better person. Some people are meant in your life for just a while and it is also okay to let those people go.
3. Listen to your intuition.
This one is very obvious but listen to your intuition. We can ignore it, we can deny it, but deep down we know we need to listen to our inner self. Our intuition tells us our needs, the things we want, the people we want to be around with, the adventures we want to go to. If you listen to your intuition, you will build a better relationship with yourself and things will just flow more easily. I remember having a strong need to make new art or swimming in the sea and it was so out of nowhere but I listened to that feeling and I never felt so high on life. I know it sounds really strange but it was exactly what I needed that day.
4. Eat the right foods.
Your body is a temple and it really talks to you. Yes, your body talks to you, so listen carefully. When you will treat your body with nutritious and healthy foods, you will feel so much lighter and happier. Learn how your body reacts do different kind of foods, how it reacts to sugar, processed foods – how it reacts to vegetables and important proteins. Do your research and get to know yourself on a different level.
5. Practise self care.
The right way to heal your body or soul is to practice a lot of self care. There are a lot of ways to take care of your body and soul but here is a list of my favourite things to do:
– Detox with lemon water every morning. I squeeze half of a lemon into cold or hot water and drink it before I drink or eat anything else in the morning. It’s great for your skin and helps with digestion.
– Practise Yoga or meditation (especially when I don’t feel like it). Calming the mind is really important during busy or stressful periods. It gives me loads of energy but also calms me down.
– Give myself some alone time. Sometimes I need to be away from people. I like spending time alone and it helps me to connect with MYSELF instead of other people. I do all the things that feel right that day; I make art, I journal, I write a blogpost, I rest.
I really hope you liked this article and find it useful in some way. Hope you have a blessed day, talk soon XO